Thursday, January 31, 2013

Brown Symposium XXV: Sex Talk - A Symposium with Benefits


The first speaker of the day was Rev. Debra Haffner, and I must say I was pleasantly surprised. I wouldn’t consider myself to be a very religious person so I was a little skeptical about the first talk which was titled “Sex and Religion: What’s the Connection?” However, Rev. Haffner did an extraordinary job in illustrating the common links between sexuality and religion without “preaching” to the audience. She challenged the common notions that sexuality and religion don’t coexist by citing specific religious passages and arguing that sexuality is actually a gift, not a sin. She specifically spoke of Genesis 1 and 2 as well as the Ten Commandments to convey this message.  Furthermore, she went on to emphasize the need to listen to and recognize the over arching messages rather than rigidly living according to a select few verses. Towards the end of this fantastic presentation, Rev. Debra Haffner discussed the link between sexual injustice and economic injustice and how all of this is in fact related to religion. She spoke of how certain denominations were starting to move forward and be more accepting of those who identify as homosexuals and that certain groups were allowing these individuals to be clergy members. Rev. Haffner presented some excellent points and offered inspiring messages which were accessible, I believe, to all religions and faiths. I truly enjoyed listening to her speak.

And then there was Dan Savage. I had gone to “Savage Love Live” the night before, which was absolutely hilarious, and knew that his talk at the symposium was going to be just as great. Some audience members did not quite feel the same way, but that’s how the cookie crumbles. He was interviewed in a Q&A format which focused primarily on political issues. I don’t typically follow politics very closely, but I thoroughly enjoyed Dan’s opinions on different matters and found myself agreeing with most of his responses. And of course his humorous interjections bashing politicians and Rick Perry made it just that much more enjoyable. Yet, I think one of the highlight of his talk on Monday was when he digressed into talking about the “It Gets Better” project. The sentimental stories that he shared, not only from his past but from others benefiting from the project’s message, moved the audience and really emphasized the need for increased awareness and acceptance for the LGTB community and youth. The story of the young girl who had sent him the letter was heartbreaking but also inspirational. His unique combination of humor, sincerity, and blunt commentary offered a certain type of energy to the symposium. Having him visit our campus was definitely a privilege.

After my wonderful lunch with Debby Herbenick, I listened to Pam Wilson speak. Her presentation was quite a contrast from that of Dan Savage but equally enjoyable. She offered a perspective on sexuality from birth to death which I imagine most people had not considered before. Most individuals don’t want to acknowledge children or the elderly as sexual beings, but Pam brought this reality to everyone’s attention. She discussed how sexuality can be viewed in five circles: sensuality, intimacy, sexual identity, sexual health and reproduction, and sexualization. Most sexual education courses or views only incorporated two of these five elements. Pam Wilson went on to emphasize how sexuality is more dynamic than most programs and courses convey. She also presented statistics in relation to Texas sex education, which are kind of alarming, as well as highlighting new national standards. As studies have already shown, abstinence only education is not effective and Pam hit this message home while demonstrating how the state of Texas is lagging behind. She presented very practical and insightful information about sexuality education while also incorporating her own personal stories and elements of humor. Overall, Pam’s talk was excellent and extremely relevant to current issues and educational structure.

The last speaker was the wonderful Debby Herbenick. Within the first few minutes of her presentation she had the audience screaming the words vulva, penis, and clitoris without hesitation. She went on to present 10 key findings from recent research studies about the sexual behavior of Americans. She presented findings about sexual pain, pubic hair, vibrators, and condom use among others. I found her research to be fascinating and almost wished her talk lasted a little longer.  She incorporated elements of humor and the information she provided was relevant and interesting. Debby captivated the audience and provided another outlet which encouraged sexual discussion and inquiry. Her presentation was definitely one of my favorites by far.

Following Debby’s talk, there was a panel discussion including all of the day’s speakers (minus Dan Savage L) led by Dr. Nenga. The questions posed by Dr. Nenga were great which at times actually had the speakers speechless for a few moments. The speakers alternated in providing their responses which were very insightful. They discussed relationships and how to go about talking about sexuality following this event as well as some of the more surprising and strange moments in their careers. They also addressed questions of audience members and provided thoughtful answers. It was nice to have a kind of open forum which allowed for audience interaction and discussion. This was an excellent way to conclude the symposium and presentations in my opinion.

 The Brown Symposium was absolutely wonderful this year. Shame on anyone who missed it! (But if you are one of the unfortunate souls who missed this spectacular event, no need to worry. Just hunt down someone who ordered the DVD and you can still watch all of the speakers’ presentations!)

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Me, Myself, I: Self Perception & Self-Esteem

Growing up I was an only child and as a result have always been relatively shy and timid, at least until I get to know other people. This led to a considerable amount of doubt and uncertainty across various areas of my life. I would find myself constantly questioning whether the things I liked to do or the way I presented myself were “cool” or socially acceptable. In attempts to evaluate and understand myself I would constantly compare myself to others whether it be in regards to what I was wearing that day or how I was performing academically. I always wanted to know how my friends did on various assignments or tests in order to seek some kind of validation or sense that I was doing well or even better. This is just one of many applications of Festinger's social comparison theory which basically states that we make comparisons to other people in order to assess ourselves, particularly in the absence of any systematic or objective means of comparison (Festinger, 1954). This concept still perseveres to this day where I still find myself comparing my tastes in fashion, music, food, movies, and so on.
In addition to making general comparisons, this need to evaluate became even more prevalent in cases where I was not happy or satisfied with my personal situation. Thus, I sought opportunities to remind myself that I was faring at least a little bit better than someone else. For example, whenever I would be going through tough times with my significant other I would often find myself comparing my relationship to those of my friends in order to find some comfort and relief in knowing that my situation was not the worst. This kind of evaluation is also referred to as a downward social comparison in which an individual seeks to compare their situation to those of people in less favorable circumstances in attempts to restore one’s self esteem (Hakmiller, 1996). I have also caught myself making downward social comparisons in regards to academic performance. There has definitely been a few times where I have received a grade which did not quite meet my expectations so naturally I went and found someone who scored worse in order to make myself feel better.

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Festinger, L. (1954). A theory of social comparison processes. Human Relations, 7, 117-140.

Hakmiller, K.L. (1996). Threat as a determinant of downward comparison. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology (Suppl. 1), 32-39.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

And so it begins...

Welcome! :) 

That is all for now until I have some coffee. In case you couldn't tell I am not a morning person. 

I'll be more interesting later I promise.